If you identify as a feminist and tell a guy you’re dating that you are, then you’ve likely been on one of those dates where the guy says, ‘Well, I won’t hold the door open for you then,’ or, ‘So I guess that means you want to split the bill?’ This focus on simple gestures obscures the real needs feminists have when it comes to how we date. It is not about holding the door open, and it’s not about the bill; it’s about recognizing the ways in which gender is connected with power and how those power imbalances play out when we’re dating.
— Samhita Mukhopadhyay, Outdated: Why Dating Is Ruining Your Love Life
