No worries, I understand!
I agree that we shouldn’t treat rape victims as though they’re completely destroyed, but I also dislike the idea that they ought to “pick themselves up” and “just be strong” because for some people, rape is very traumatic and ultimately harmful. Everyone gets to deal and process it on their own terms. If someone feels more like a victim than a survivor, it’s not my place to judge or blame. They have the right to their feelings.